“Ask your heart, righteousness is what the heart feels tranquil with {…} “ Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him

I have never been as concerned about the state of my heart as since I’ve been listening to Shaykh Hamza Yusuf’s lectures.

Sometimes I joke about it, saying that now I try to go through life with a stethoscope on my chest to follow all the moves of my heart ;-) Indeed, Hamza Yusuf has highlighted the importance of putting oneself to work on one’s heart before comes the Day:

“In which neither wealth nor children shall be of any benefit [to anyone], except one who comes to God with a sound heart “(Quran, 26:88-89)

But before that day comes, purification of the heart is really the way to make the world a better place, for every act of cruelty, hate, racism, violence, pollution, stems from a disease in the heart and will disappear when it is cured. The disease can be either envy, cruelty, arrogance, rancor, ostentation, fear of poverty ...

The million dollar question is therefore, how to cure these diseases?

Fortunately, there exists a self-purification book (poem) known as Matharat al-Qulub (literally, Purification of the Hearts), which offers a means by which purification can be achieved. It is a treatise on the alchemy of the hearts, a manual on how to transform the heart. It was written by a great scholar, Shaykh Muhammad Mawlud al-Yaqubi al-Musawi al-Mauritani (Yuppie! He’s a compatriot of mine) and commented on by Hamza Yusuf.

By the way guys, if you ever have the chance of having this book in your hands, you must absolutely read the dedication written by Shaykh Hamza Yusuf. He says something like: “I dedicate this book to my wife, who has a heart so pure she doesn’t need it”. WOW!

Mashallah, what a beautiful thing to say about one’s spouse… it really makes you want to meet the woman! And it also taught me to try look at my own “better half ;-) with as much indulgence as Shaykh Hamza views his wife! Lol, Thank God my hubby is still learning English and can’t read my blog!

The book helped me identify some of my own diseases (of the heart) I wasn’t even aware of! Honestly, when I read the book I felt discouraged (I had a heart ache throughout it) but now that I know a tiny winy bit more than I used to at the time, I am super happy because now I know that :

-          Diseases can be cured (I have experienced it!)

-          Aching when you read about a disease is actually a good sign, it means that contrary to some hearts, your heart is still alive. For instance, if you read about miserliness and that your heart aches it certainly means you’re stingy ;-) but the good news is that your disease can be treated and eventually cured!

Once you’ve identified most of your diseases of the heart  this is how I have nearly cured some of mine:

1. Treat the heart with the things you KNOW deep down inside of you, are good for you.

For me, two simples changes were : reading Quran regularly and quitting listening to that depressing band that invariably made me want to throw myself from the top of a cliff! (pessimism is a disease of the heart).

2.Purify your life with Takwa, get away from those acts and people that drag you down.

As derived from the teachings of the Prophet (SAW), an act can take the appearance of good, or be banalized by society but if, even a tiny voice in your heart expresses unease because of it, quit it.  Don't shun that voice and silence it like Dorian Gray did, until you're so deep down into corruption, that you can no longer be guided by your heart.

In that regards, something happened to me that was pretty eloquent…

Living in the west, I have never had a problem with people who drink, if you don’t believe me just ask my friends down at the pub ;-)

Jokes aside, my reasoning was the following : I shouldn't have an issue about entering in non-alcohol free places (in the West) because I know who I am, a practicing muslim who would order a coke with her my meal.

After embarking on the purification of the heart journey, I no longer could enter places selling alcohol; the mere idea of entering a restaurant/café selling alcohol made me physically sick (I wanted to throw up).

In French the expression for having nausea “avoir mal au coeur” means literally “to have a heart ache”! It's clearly what happened to me : my heart ached so badly I was sick.

No matter what people told me, no matter how my brain tried to dismiss it with rational arguments, I decided to follow my heart.

3. Salawats on the prophet Muhammad (SAW)

I have not doubt  this is the practice that has helped me the most.

“Prayers on me are light in the heart, light in the grave and light on the Sirat " (sirat is the bridge every soul will have to cross to enter the heavens) 

While I am saying Salawats on the prophet SAW I always try to remember how much he loved us; the women, the children, the poor and all of God’s creation.  Until his last breath, he prayed that God have mercy on his Ummah. He died saying : Ummati… Ummati… Ummati… (my followers).

When I think of how he much he loved us, I can’t but strive harder to follow his way.

I noticed that as my love for the greatest of creation increased, I started to change, my heart softened, I couldn’t curse as much as I used to, even jokingly.  I have also never been a cry baby; each time I used to cry it was mostly out of anger and frustration! Gosh,I’ve changed so much; the hard headed woman has slowly given place to a meek person who weeps at spiritual stories... Lol

If some cleansing of the heart hasn’t taken place there, God only knows what happened!

Even my better half ;-) has noticed the changes in me, I have become nicer with him, actually when I laze about doing Dhikr after Maghrib, he urges me to do it even though he seldom does! lol

As a friend says, lectures are great, they serve as a reminder but “it is in Dhikr that our real growth lies”. I cannot but totally agree J

4. Remembering death

Reading about death, helps you have more detachment towards material things and accept that this life is imperfect and that the true success lies in being a good person. For it is that sound heart of yours, that will get (with God’s Mercy) you through the gates of Heaven and not your career as CEO of some big corporation.

5. Hang out with good people who try to better themselves and not the people who have given up the fight

Shaykh Hamza says that a sick heart needs good company in order to "inhale the fragrances of sincerity".

Finally,

 

By trying to cure your own diseases of the heart, you’re embodying the change you want to see in the world! You might not think that you're doing anything grand, because you’re not a world renown peace activist and you’re far from having Mother Teresa’s dedication but you never know…

One day after working hard on your heart you might wake up to find that you have become a clone of Mother Theresa without your knowledge!

Or, you might never become the next  Mother Teresa, but you will certainly bring up your children to be non racist, open-minded loving, compassionate people (sound hearts!) who will greatly contribute to making the world a better and safer place to be! And that my friend, will undoubtedly be a major achievement.

Please pray for me so I can have both blessings!

"On Allah the Most Merciful & Compassionate I shall rely"

On Allah the most Merciful, the Most Compassionate, the Lord of the Universe I shall rely

This is my new credo, the new perspective I have adopted for my life and have been cultivating for a while in order to be almost always deeply happy. I know many who would pay me good money to know my recipe to hapiness, well  guys, rejoice this time I won't charge you :-)

I fought the stress created by the daily challenges of modern life by shifting my whole vision of things, I have become incredibly serene and happy and it all started with Shaykh Hamza reminding us in his beautiful descriptive style of a story in the prophetic sunna where a woman embraces her child in a crow so vehemently and cries "My child! My child" with such anguish that all those who witnessed the scene were moved to tears. Allah’s Messenger (Saw) who was present throughout the scene turned to his companions and asked them : “Do you think that this woman would ever throw her child into the fire?” The companions all answered: ‘By Allah, Never!’ So the Prophet (Saw) said: “Allah is more merciful to His believing servants than that mother could ever be to her child."      

But why can a single story be the trigger to a 360° mind set shift?

Well, every morning I remind myself that Allah Al Rahman (the most merciful), Al Rahim (the most compassionate) loves me more than anyone in this world, it is then that I remember the loving faces of my father and mother may Allah grant them a long life of worship and happiness, I remember especially how my father constantly tries to lift us up and to shelter us, even now as adults! I am sure that if it were possible he would  live our lives in our places to prevent us from going through any hardships!

And so in the face of a love so pure, so disinterested and immense as fatherly and motherly love, the Sunna reminds me that Allah’s Love is infinite and not limited like their love and it is then that I have this certainty… certainty, that in a world governed by His rule nothing bad can happen to me and to my loved ones, we have nothing to fear, nothing to worry about because we are Loved by the one and Almighty…Amen.

I will never forget the day my father explained to me as a child, that the deep arabic meaning behind "El Rahman, El Rahim" "the Most Merciful, the Most Compassionate" is that Allah's mercy and compassion behold all human beings whether believers or non believers.

It's this infinite and unconditional love (Allah has mercy even on people who don't believe in Him) that drives me to work hard on my soul –Nafs- to be worthy of it. I soooo pray for more patience… I want the patience of those who are resilient at the very first strike....and then I want "El Rida", the contentment of those who accept whatever Allah has decreed for them, be it bliss or tribulation!

   

I am sharing with you all this because it has helped me enormously to face my day with serenity. If I happen to face what I no longer call a "problem" but call now (with more optimism) "challenge", I know it is simply one of the many painless tests that are there to juge my character.

And it all started with Shaykh Hamza... (may Allah give him Jennah) :-)